Thursday, December 31, 2009

The 50s Bedroom

If one were to understand the sleeping arrangements of the couples in 1950s, one would think they all slept in separate twin beds. Since I was born in the 50s, I knew that wasn't so. The only married people I knew that slept in twin beds were my Grandma Terry and her husband. I thought it was odd, but not so much until I knew what sex was. I don't think they were having that much of it. They were married much later in life after they had both lost their spouses.

My parents slept in the same bed, and how! I would walk into their bedroom only to find them wrapped up together. That's how I though married people slept until I got married myself to someone who didn't like to be touched while he was sleeping, and we slept in a king-sized bed, so he had plenty of room! But that's another story. Back to the 50's.....

All couples on TV slept in twin beds until the Bradys, but that wasn't until 1969. Ward andJune Cleaver, Rob and Laura Petrie, and Jim and Margaret Anderson all slept in twin beds. I find it ironic that even Lucy and Ricky Ricardo didn't sleep in the same bed and they were married in real life!

One of my students recently wrote that it was common for couples in the 50's to sleep in separate beds. I questioned that and did some research. I found that many couples in the 50s slept in twin beds as do many today. In fact, according to ask.com fully 1/3 of married couples sleep separately, either in separate beds or in separate rooms. I have to admit, that I am one of them. I never thought I would sleep away from my husband considering how I was raised and my problems with cuddling with my first hubby, but that is how it has ended up and I'm glad about it. My husband is a snorer and has restless leg syndrome, added to his insomnia which gets him up at 3 or 4 on the morning. I hardly ever got a good night's sleep!

Now I sleep alone in our queen-sized bed and love it! I can stay up and read as late as I want, don't have to share the covers, and the bed is easily made the next day. He visits regularly for our romantic rendezvous and he stays to cuddle for awhile, but eventually he leaves for his own bed -- a recliner in the living room!



10 comments:

brista said...

Your husband sleeps in a recliner in the living room? Sounds uncomfortable. At least get that man a sleeper sofa.

Sora S said...

bit selfish of you, why don't you sleep on the recliner, gender equality and all that....or at least take turns...i feel sorry for your husband

Gavin Seabrook said...

I agree with the above comments. Sounds more like you kicked him out of the room and sent him to sleep on the couch like a dog. At least give him his own room and his own bed you selfish lady!

Michael Helmer said...

I prefer a recliner. I've actually never have slept in my queen size bed. I only bought it because I was young and thought that's what the rest of society does.

kevin smith said...

The first Tv sitcom to show couples sleeping in beds together was not the brady bunch(1969)...not sure what show is the first but I do know that I was watching an episode of bewitched(1964 season 1)today and they had a very large king sized bed they shared.

BettyM84 said...

Actually, Lucy and Ricky did start sharing a bed during the show. I'm not sure of which season, but they got a double at some point. I'm pretty sure there were a few other shows thst did too....before the Brady's came around.

Kaytee Southerton said...

Gender equality aside, he or she that has the sleep disorder should be polite and courteous enough to remove themselves. My ex of 10 years started to snore the 5th year in, so since I was the light sleeper, I would fall asleep with him but if his snoring woke me I had the 2nd bedroom ready to go. Granted some ask why I didn't kick him out but it wouldn't be fair to wake somebody sleeping soundly to tell them to leave coz they snore. I am a very light sleeper so despite the fact I'm the female, I felt it was my sleep disorder so I should have to be the one to remove myself from the situation.

Regina Walker said...

I'm glad to hear that we aren't the only couple with sleeping together issues. My husband and I were in our 30's when we married and have totally different sleeping habits. He needs tv on- I need it off. He snores and I toss and turn. So much better with separate rooms!

zarric said...

I have to chip in on this. Me and my wife are in our mid 30s. She snores, tosses and turns and is a cover thief. I like things quiet and don't like the bed moving and also have really bad insomnia. For almost 20 years, yes 20 years, we have slept in a bed together and neither of us could have it any other way. It is the only type of torture that we can really love. It may be because of a learned habit of some kind considering how old we were when we started sharing a bed however, even if I don't come to bed because I'm up working all night doing my stuff in the living room, she will wake up to go to work and complain that she wanted me there and me thinking in my head wanting the same thing. I know other married couples or a few other people will understand this example. When you first got married and you wore your ring all the time it may have been somewhat of a nussance. It felt funny and it would catch on everything but you kept it on for at least most of the time. Years later you have the same ring but now you can't feel it. It feels like its apart of you even though its not. If you take it off even for a moment, it feels as you are now wearing something. Basically, you just got use to it and now it is the nakedness that bothers you. It don't really matter how old you are, its the commitment that matters the most. So it doesnt matter if you sleep in one or two beds but even when you see the advantages of a solo bed there probably will be more disadvantages on a psychological level but likewise there can be tangable disadvantages of sharing a bed with other advantages other than those involving gender relations.

Diane Gregory said...

Exactly